As it comes to the end of the year, it is important to self-reflect and acknowledge what went well and most importantly, the lessons that we have learnt. One thing that has been clear to me this year is that many individuals have been suffering from destination addiction:
“a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is somewhere else.” – Robert Holden, Ph.D.
These individuals are on the pursuit to happiness. They believe that they will find happiness in their next job, next adventure or next romantic relationship. This is a very dangerous state of mind to be in. Why? Because the constant search for happiness elsewhere will leave individuals feeling empty, and they will never truly be happy. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t look forward to that new job, or new experience, but we shouldn’t sacrifice our present happiness. As cliché as it sounds, happiness starts from within. So, enjoy the journey and enjoy what is now. I have put together 7 tips on how to live a happy life in 2017 (and the rest of your life).
- Don’t let negative thoughts consume you
Even the happiest and most positive individuals have negative thoughts, however, they don’t let these thoughts overshadow their happiness. Our state of mind is a very powerful place. I have been guilty of letting my negative thoughts consume me, but once I changed my way of thinking, I became a much happier person. The more you surrender to your negative thoughts, the stronger they actually become. Don’t feed your negative thoughts, instead, observe them and let them go, or even better, turn them into a positive thought.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
This is very important. Surround yourself with people who want to grow and progress for the better. Unfortunately not everybody has your best interests at heart, distance yourself from individuals who drain your energy or feed your negative thoughts. Likewise, stop being a people pleaser and learn to say no.
- Don’t play the victim.
It’s so easy for you to blame others or to find excuses for your dissatisfaction in life. The reality is, this is your life and you need to take responsibility. You have the choice to make necessary changes to get to where you want to go in life, but you have to commit to making these changes, nobody can do it for you. This leads to my next point…
- If you don’t like something, change it.
It is as simple as that. Your job, your hairstyle, your outfit, you name it! If you don’t like it, change it. If you are unable to change it, then change your way of thinking. There is no point dwelling on something that is out of your control.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Fed up? Exhausted? Ready to give up on your dreams? Don’t be too hard on yourself! Life may not be running as smoothly as you would like it to, but don’t beat yourself up nor compare your journey to anyone else’s. No one is perfect and although you may see others “succeeding”, you don’t know what they have been through to get to where they are now. All you can do in life is try your best. As long as you are still living and breathing, you have the opportunity to try again.
- Learn to forgive and let go.
You can’t move forward in life if you are still holding onto past failures and heartaches. Every challenge we face in life is an opportunity for growth and lessons learnt. Holding on to feelings of anger and resentment is only going to hurt you and stop you from living a happy life.
“Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you.”
Don’t spend your life being at war with yourself. Forgive and let go.
- Appreciate the simple pleasures in life.
Sometimes we can get so caught up in our busy lives that we forget to appreciate the simple pleasures in life. Our loved ones, precious memories, beautiful surroundings, silly jokes and most importantly, the fact that we are breathing, have a roof over our head, clothes to wear, food and clean water. There are some people in this world, praying and wishing for what you have right now. Be thankful. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a very Happy and healthy New Year.
Love always, G. x